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Social Inclusion Week

In his post for Social Inclusion Week, ANDY HAMILTON SJ writes that social inclusion depends on social friendship – the readiness to welcome others into our lives.

In recent years people have spoken much more openly about what it is like to be excluded. We are better informed about what it means to be racially profiled and so more likely to be searched and treated badly by police, to be looked over for jobs in favour of people less qualified, to be abused on trams and buses for the colour of our skin and to be laughed at because of the colour of our skin. It is hard not to be moved and angered by these stories. Our hearts go out to the people so excluded. Our hands then have a good chance of following. But first we should ask ourselves why people are discriminated against and excluded.

Many people excluded have been disadvantaged by birth and by their place of living. They may have been born into unstable relationships, had a precarious childhood in which they were subject to domestic violence and constant anxiety, suffered from bodily and mental illness, lacked access to health care and steady education, perhaps had to deal with addiction and dealings with the justice system, and lived in areas of high unemployment. In a more supported environment family, health services, schools, and local groups would help children to integrate with society and to find a way to contribute it in their lives. Where these supports are weak or absent, young people naturally find it difficult to master the skills and the self-confidence to make connections. As they are excluded from society, too, they will learn to exclude others from their lives.

Where people’s relationships have been closed down by experiences of rejection, uncertainty and fear from childhood, they must find encouragement to re-open them curtain by curtain, door by door. It all begins with finding respect for themselves as persons, not for their looks, their money, the way they speak or their use to others. Social inclusion depends on social friendship – the readiness in ourselves and in others to welcome others into our lives and not to exclude them.

To show respect for others we need to find respect for ourselves. For this reason, where connections have not been made they must be built in a slow way through good relationships. That is what we try to do in our work with vulnerable young people at Jesuit Social Services. The qualities necessary for this are enshrined in our motto: Welcoming, discerning, courageous. All three qualities are necessary when accompanying young people experiencing disadvantage to engage confidently with society. To be welcomed can be a strange experience for people who have faced rejection at every turn since childhood. We might expect the welcome to be tested and the road to connection to be marked by many moments of disconnection. In such circumstances to be unfailingly welcoming also requires discernment and courage. We need to hang in. But the road is worth walking because of the unique value of the persons whom we help to connect.

ANDY HAMILTON SJ